Sometimes I have to admit that my students are a little bit hard to love. Sometimes they are obnoxious and whiny and pesky and a million other things that teenagers often are. They regularly make me exhausted, frustrated, fed up. I wonder occasionally why I am putting in so much effort for a group of people who can be so cruel and so ungrateful, but even on those days when they leave me wondering why I even like them, I try to do as Mother Teresa said and love them anyway.
It's the other days, though, that they are hardest to love. My students are hardest to love when they fill my days with joy and laughter, when they fill my heart with pride and warmth. It is on the days when my students are easiest to love that I have the hardest time loving them. On these days, it is sometimes difficult to forget the world that spins madly around them. On these day, I sometimes cannot let go of the fear I feel for my students.
Maybe this is the hard part about loving teenagers, of giving a piece of your heart to these young people who are so rife with a sense of independence, recklessness, invincibility. You hear them whisper about their plans for prom night. You hold your breath in the bleachers on Friday night as you wonder whether your student will get up uninjured from the hit they just took on the football field. You listen as they recount the first time they heard gunshots outside their window. You kneel by your bed and pray for the second time this year that a student will make it out of the hospital alive.
And here is where the oxymoron comes in: The more you love them, the more you fear what could happen to them and yet the more you find yourself fearing what could happen to them, the more you know just how much you love them.
I think perhaps this is on my mind because the end of the year is ever so close and with it looms the reality that soon my students will no longer be mine. I've known all year that there is much in their lives that is out of my control, but at least in that time I could watch out for them if only for one hour of the day. For that hour I could do my best to make sure they were safe and they were learning and they felt loved, but when May 24th passes, that ends. When May 24th passes, all I can hope is that they leave me a little bit smarter, a little bit kinder, a little bit more prepared for what's ahead of them. And more than that I hope that they know they matter to someone and, in the immortal words of Dr. Seuss, that "When you get mixed up or hung up or blue, remember there's someone who's pulling for you."
